For Victims of domestic
Safety planning helps develop tools in advance of
potentially dangerous situations. Choose only the suggestions listed here that
make sense for your situation.
Safety during an Explosive Incident
Go to an area
that has an exit.
Not a bathroom (near hard surfaces), kitchen (knives), or
Stay in room
with a phone
Call 911, a friend, or a neighbor, if necessary. Inform
them if there are weapons in the home.
Practice how to get out of your home safely. Visualize
your escape route.
Have a packed
Keep it hidden in handy place in order to leave quickly,
or leave the bag elsewhere f the abuser searches your home.
Devise a code
word or signal.
Tell your children, grandchildren, or neighbors so you
can communicate to them that you need the police.
Plan where you will go if you have to leave home, even if
you don’t think you’ll need to.
Consider anything that you feel will keep you safe and
give you time to figure out what to do next. Sometimes it is best to flee and
sometimes it is best to appease the abuser-anything that works to protect
yourself and the children.
Safety When Preparing to Leave
can be the most dangerous time!
Have a safe
place to stay.
Make sure it is a place that can protect you and your
children or grandchildren.
Call a sexual
and domestic violence program.
Find out which services and shelters are available as
options if you need them. Keep their address and phone number close at hand at
Leave money, extra keys, copies of important documents,
and clothing with them in advance so you can leave quickly, if necessary.
Open a savings
Put it in your name only. Consider direct deposit from
your paycheck or benefit check.
You may qualify under a law called the Violence Against
Women Act. Talk to an immigration expert (not Immigration and Customs
Enforcement) or your local sexual and domestic violence program (see “Kansas
Sexual and Domestic Violence Program Numbers”) for more information.
Safety in Your Own Home
(if the abuser
does not live with you)
Change the locks on doors and windows. Consider a
security service, window bars, better lighting, smoke detectors, and fire
Have a safety
Teach your children or grandchildren how to call the
police or someone they can trust. Have a secret code word that you and your
children agree on to communicate trouble and for the people who are allowed to
pick up the children.
Screen your calls if you have an answering machine or
caller ID. Save all messages with threats or that violate any orders. Contact
your local phone company about getting an unpublished number.
neighbors and landlord.
Inform them that the abuser no longer lives with you and
that they should call the police if they see the abuser near your home.
Find a lawyer knowledgeable about domestic violence to
explore custody, visitation, and divorce options that may protect you and the
children. Discuss getting a protection order as an option.
The abuser may be mandated to a batterers” intervention
program. Talk with the program to find out more about potential risks to you
while the abuser participates. Additionally, contact your local sexual and
domestic violence program (see “Kansas Sexual and Domestic Violence Program
Numbers”) for more information
IN AN EMERGENCY, CALL 911
For support, call
the sexual and domestic violence program nearest you:
The Kansas Crisis
Domestic Violence Hotline at
Important Telephone Numbers
If you decide to leave,
TAKE WITH YOU
Marriage and driver’s licenses
Birth certificates-yours and family’s
Money, checkbooks, credit cards, ATM cards,
mortgage payment book, car title
Social security card, work permit, green card,
Divorce and custody papers, protection order
Insurance papers and medical records
Lease, rental agreement, or house deed
School and health records
Keys-house, car, office, friend’s
Medications, glasses, hearing aids need by you
and your family
Personal items-address book, pictures, toys
Copies of your spouse’s green card or social
security card and all immigration related documents
Safety and Emotional Health
Call a domestic violence crisis hotline or attend a
women’s or victims’ support group to gain support from others and learn more
about yourself and the relationship with the abuser.
Do what is safe
If you have to communicate with the abuser, arrange to do
so in a way that makes you feel safe-whether by phone, mail, or in the company
of another person.
Safety and Your Children
Tell school and
Let them know who has permission to pick up the children.
Discuss with them other special provisions to protect you and your children.
Provide a picture of the abuser, if necessary.
children in a safe place.
Find a safe place to exchange the children for
visitation. Some communities have specific locations just for this purpose.
Contact your local sexual and domestic violence program (see “Kansas Sexual and
Domestic Violence Program Numbers”) for more information.
You and your children deserve to be safe.
Safety on the Job
Decide who at work you will inform of your situation,
especially if you have a Protection From Abuse Order (PFA). This may include
office security, if available. Provide a picture of abuser, if necessary. You
can request confidentiality from those you disclose to.
Arrange to have someone screen and log your telephone
calls, if necessary.
Make a safety
Create a safety plan when you enter and leave your work
place. Have someone escort you to your vehicle or other transportation.
If you and the abuser work at the same place, discuss
with your supervisor your options regarding scheduling, safety precautions, and
Contact your local sexual and domestic violence program
(see “Kansas Sexual and domestic Violence Program Numbers”) to receive
additional information about workplace safety.
In an Emergency, Call 911
For support, contact:
The sexual and domestic violence program nearest you click here to see map.
Kansas Crisis Hotline